
When I recollect the past (for illustrations), and when I look to the present, there are a few constants, a few things that are the same in various circumstances, over various timeframes.
So how can one assess the validity of a kinship or of any relationship after some time? What are the things that we can see that are "warnings" in ordinary connections, and perhaps "warnings" seeing someone in families or in collaborators or even at school? What are the key things that reliably show up that can caution us to be careful, to be cautious, to tread gently?
